Category: Family

Someone Like You

Jealous isn’t the right word; neither is envy–because no one should feel jealous or envious of people affected by rare genetic diseases. But I’ve always felt a longing for the kind of community that some of my friends in this rare genetic disease world have. Even people with rare diseases can find others who have […]

You’ve Been My Shelter

Life has become so normal so fast. A week ago, Dr. Emans said that the outcome from Ben’s surgery was “phenomenal”. Ben no longer needs me, or anyone else, on a minute-by-minute or even hourly basis. So, I’m back to traveling, for work and sometimes for fun. But let me tell you about the first […]

Ben’s Road Traveled

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. –Robert Frost It’s been 18 days since Ben’s surgery at Boston Children’s Hospital, which involved attaching titanium rods to his T1 and T12 vertebrae to create tension to straighten his thoracic spine. By […]


Ben hasn’t had surgery since November 2011—almost 1.5 years ago. 2012 was a surgery free year! But on April 4, 2013, that will all change, when Ben undergoes insertion of growing rods along his entire spine to help address his severe scoliosis resulting from Schwartz-Jampel syndrome. Over the last 10 years, Ben has been cared […]

Iceland Pre-Op Adventure

Ben is scheduled for spinal fusion surgery on April 4. We’ve known this was going to happen since last August, but willingly blocked it out of our minds until this year. Since January, however, we’ve had to face reality: we’ve had school and therapist meetings to prepare for Ben’s 6 weeks away from school, we’ve […]

Goodbye Gabriel

He loved the show Yo Gabba Gabba and his older brother Andre. He smiled and laughed all the time, even through many episodes of pain. He was his mother’s joy and love, and she fought so, so hard to get him all the care he needed. And he said his goodbye to his family and […]

Farewell Leona the Large

Eight year old Lucy begged for a pet–a fish, a bird, a guinea pig or hamster– because she knew a dog was out of the question. Sherin, who grew up in Jos, Nigeria with more pets than anyone I’ve ever known, including Alfred the turkey and a monkey whose name I’ve never known, said “if […]

Wheely dogs and international friends

Sunday evening I was driving down a residential road with Charlotte and Ben, and slowed down when I saw a couple walking their dog. It was dark, but I caught a glimpse of the dog and saw that the dog had hind wheels instead of hind legs. I told C&B this and they both immediately […]

Birthday Boy…Drumroll please!

What do JK Rowling, Harry Potter and Ben Elwy all have in common? They were all born on July 31! There are many similarities between Ben and Harry. For one, they both have scars (although Ben wishes he had a cool lightning-shaped one). They both like moving fast. And they both have parents who adore(d) […]

Always Ask!

Charlotte’s first foray into the land of Wellesley Little League has recently ended, and I think Ben is glad. We went to a lot of Sunday afternoon t-ball games this Spring, and we experienced excitement like a wasp’s nest in a tree above our head that made us run for our lives. Ben put the […]