{"id":131,"date":"2010-04-28T19:11:29","date_gmt":"2010-04-28T23:11:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/?p=131"},"modified":"2017-10-31T20:07:41","modified_gmt":"2017-11-01T00:07:41","slug":"matchmaker-matchmaker-dont-make-me-a-match","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/2010\/04\/28\/matchmaker-matchmaker-dont-make-me-a-match\/","title":{"rendered":"Matchmaker, Matchmaker\u2026 DON\u2019T make me a match!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hoochies, I really don\u2019t want to admit this, but I will. I watch The Millionaire Matchmaker<\/a>.\u00a0 Now, on many counts, this show is pretty despicable. The premise is addictive: Patti Stanger, a 3rd<\/sup> generation matchmaker in LA, sets up rich men through her Millionaire\u2019s Club, the website<\/a> of which looks like an advertisement for a brothel. These millionaires are allowed to handpick women who are usually a) way too nice or b) way too young.\u00a0 Criticizing this show is like shooting fish in a barrel, but I\u2019ll give you the highlights:<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0 If you want to marry a millionaire, and you\u2019re above a size 6, good luck. Patti reserves \u201cbigger\u201d (i.e. a size 10) women for her \u201cchubby chasing\u201d clients. Now, I take offense at this on a couple of levels. First, the idea that a woman should be telling other women that they are fat and unworthy to compete for male attention is disgraceful. This kind of attitude teaches men that only the slimmest of women are worthy of love, and it teaches women that in the competition for rich men, their bodies are the greatest weapons.\u00a0 Insidious female on female attack is destructive and demeaning. \u00a0If we tell men that they should only be attracted to certain body types and that the rest are undesirable, it feeds right back into a damaging sizist cycle that we need to end.<\/p>\n

2) I guess money trumps idiot? These men are often rude, strange, misogynistic, witless and boring. And yes, many of them are pretty ugly. But millions of dollars seems to give them a free pass on many qualities one might look for in a mate. However, the few woman millionaires on the show have no such luck. They are still judged for their looks and admonished to let the man take control. It would appear that money only makes things harder for women because they have to prove that they are still \u201cfeminine.\u201d Hoochies, I ask you: why does \u201cfeminine\u201d have to mean docile and simpering? Unfortunately, in the Millionaire\u2019s Club, women do not have power unless expressly allowed. In her 10 Dating Rules for Single Ladies<\/a>, Stanger writes, \u201cdo not offer to outright pay for something: once a woman touches money\/credit card in front of a male she becomes masculine energy, which is undesirable.\u201d Basically, according to this line of thought, men are not attracted to women who are remotely self-sufficient \u2013 in Patti\u2019s words, the penis will definitely not get off the couch.<\/p>\n

3) Patti Stanger gives matchmaking a bad name. The whole point of matchmaking should be to make a match, <\/em>but these women are never asked what they want in a man. Granted, it\u2019s their choice to turn up for the vomit inducing \u201ccasting sessions\u201d (really an appropriate name when you think about it, eh?), but the only criteria on their lists is \u201cloaded.\u201d \u00a0The Millionaire\u2019s Club does not take into account what both sides are looking for, or even considers that a woman might want more than a rich husband. It is merely a vehicle for spoiled, rich and awkward men to sample the never-ending bounty of the LA babe buffet, and perpetuates the ever gaping gender divide.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hoochies, I really don\u2019t want to admit this, but I will. I watch The Millionaire Matchmaker.\u00a0 Now, on many counts, this show is pretty despicable. The premise is addictive: Patti Stanger, a 3rd generation matchmaker in LA, sets up rich men through her Millionaire\u2019s Club, the website of which looks like an advertisement for a … Continue reading Matchmaker, Matchmaker\u2026 DON\u2019T make me a match!<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7073,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[4,70,5,93,96],"tags":[15,6,9,8],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/131"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7073"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=131"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/131\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":132,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/131\/revisions\/132"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=131"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=131"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/hoochie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=131"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}