By Matthew Remski<\/p>\n
On Facebook, I posted a brief note<\/a> about starting to learn what is painfully obvious to women: patriarchy inflicts the stress of constant bodily vigilance at best and acute terror at worse.<\/p>\n The post took off and the comments were stunning. So many stood out, like those that reported on strategies for increasing safety in taxis. One commenter wrote that she always video-chats with a friend while she\u2019s alone in an Uber, dropping details that signal to the driver that someone knows where they are. If men don\u2019t know about this kind of defensive labour, they\u2019ve got to learn.<\/p>\n …<\/p>\n I don\u2019t have to assault women to participate in the normalization of assault. My learned, default responses are participation enough. Without that participation, could assault really be so prevalent?<\/span><\/p>\n …<\/p>\n I have to climb a mountain, forty years high, to look a little boy in the eye and tell him it\u2019s okay to feel his pain and sorrow. To tell him it\u2019s a good thing, actually. That it will help him learn to listen, and listening will help him let other people have their feelings as well.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Read the entire post here<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" By Matthew Remski On Facebook, I posted a brief note about starting to learn what is painfully obvious to women: patriarchy inflicts the stress of constant bodily vigilance at best and acute terror at worse. The post took off and the comments were stunning. So many stood out, like those that reported on strategies for … Continue reading On Minimization as a Patriarchal Reflex<\/span>