“What should I wear?” It's the question that most wedding guests ask at some point before attending a friend's important event. And it's also something that you can get wrong, really quite easily in fact. Dressing for a wedding can feel like walking a tightrope — balancing between looking stylish and ensuring you’re respectful of the couple’s big day.
Weddings are a great opportunity for a fun day (and evening) out, for catching up with family and friends, and for getting dressed up. But the getting dressed up bit can feel like you're heading into murky waters. You don't want to stand out too much, and you want to fit in with the couple's expectations for their day. You want to look smart, but you don't want to be uncomfortable – because weddings often last for hours. So how do you pitch your look just right?
Whether you’re a seasoned guest or attending your first-ever wedding, this guide will help you tackle wedding dress codes, avoid common fashion faux pas, and ensure you feel confident and comfortable on the dance floor.
Rule #1: Respect the Dress Code
One of the first things you should do after receiving a wedding invitation is checking for the dress code. Whether it’s black tie, cocktail, or casual, adhering to the dress code shows respect for the couple.
- Black Tie usually calls for floor-length gowns or a formal suit and tie (or tux).
- Cocktail Attire allows for shorter dresses, chic jumpsuits, or semi-formal suits.
- Casual or Beach Weddings might call for flowy sundresses, linen pants, and shirts.
When in doubt? It's always better to overdress than underdress. A polished look is never out of place.
Rule #2: Avoid Wearing White
This one’s non-negotiable. Wearing white, ivory, or anything that could remotely look bridal is a massive wedding no-no. The bride deserves her moment to shine! If white is part of the dress code (like an all-white party theme), make sure your outfit is understated and doesn’t overshadow the bride.
Rule #3: Be Careful with Bold Colors
Bright reds, glaring yellows, and neons can sometimes steal the spotlight — so be cautious. While color is encouraged, opt for refined hues like emerald green, dusty pink, or navy that enhance the aesthetic without turning all the attention your way. For men, a charcoal grey suit with a colorful cravat can add some understated glamor. If the couple has shared a specific color scheme for their wedding, try not to wear those hues either — they might be reserved for the bridal party.
Rule #4: Consider the Venue and Weather
Your outfit should align with the wedding’s location and season.
- Outdoor Summer Wedding? Go for breathable fabrics like cotton or chiffon to stay cool.
- Winter Ballroom Celebration? Consider velvet dresses, warmer suits, or layering with a chic shawl or tailored blazer.
Keep your footwear in mind as well; stilettos on a sandy beach are a recipe for disaster. Swap them for cute wedges or stylish flat sandals.
Rule #5: Keep It Comfortable
Weddings are marathons, not sprints. Between the ceremony, dinner, and hours on the dance floor, you’ll want to feel comfortable. Opt for fabrics that don’t feel itchy or restrictive and shoes that won’t leave you limping before dessert. Pro tip? Pack stylish flats for dancing — they'll save your feet.
Rule #6: Say No to Overly Casual Attire
Even if the invitation reads “casual,” avoid anything too laid-back. Items like jeans, flip-flops, or graphic tees are off-limits (unless the couple specifically says otherwise). Aim for smart casual instead — a breezy summer dress or slacks with a button-up shirt hits all the right notes.
- Clothes That Are Usually Considered Too Casual: tank tops, shorts, jeans, flip-flops and flat sandals .
- Clothes That Always Look Smart: midi dresses, jumpsuits, linen pants and wedges.
Rule #7: Dress for the Time of Day
The wedding time slot can give you a clue about what to wear. As a general rule, daytime weddings tend to be more casual while evening events are dressier. If the invitation doesn’t specify, it’s usually safe to assume that if the ceremony starts before 6 p.m., it's a daytime affair.
- Morning Weddings: A light-colored suit or elegant sundress.
- Afternoon Weddings: Darker suits for men and cocktail dresses for women.
- Evening Receptions: Formal attire like tuxedos and floor-length gowns.
Rule #8: Watch the Accessories
Accessories can elevate or ruin your look. Keep things tasteful and minimal to avoid clashing. Statement earrings or a bold clutch can make the perfect addition, but there’s no need to overdo it. And remember, the golden rule? No tiaras or attention-grabbing headpieces that might compete with the bride’s look.
Rule #9: Always Be Photo-Ready
Wedding photos live forever, so choose an outfit that photographs well. Avoid loud patterns or reflective fabrics that might distract on-camera. Solid colors or subtle prints often work best. And yes, make sure your outfit doesn’t crumple easily — you don’t want to look wrinkled by the time the photographer starts snapping.
- Fabrics That Crumple Easily: cotton, linen, some silks
- Fabrics That Hold Their Shape: polyester blends, wool (especially in suits)
Rule #10: Keep the Spice in Check
There’s a fine line between classy and inappropriate. Weddings are family-friendly events, so steer clear of anything overly revealing or risqué. Deep necklines, ultra-mini dresses, or sheer clothing might be better left for a night out with friends. Aim for elegance — think Audrey Hepburn vibes.
Rule #11: Personalize While Staying Respectful
Lastly, make your look you. Inject your personality with small touches — be it a fun brooch, stylish hat, or unique shoes — that make you stand out without clashing with the event’s vibe. Weddings celebrate love and individuality, so don't be afraid to bring a little of your own flair!
Weddings are as much about celebrating love as they are about dressing up and joining the fun. With these 11 tips, you can confidently choose an outfit that’s stylish, comfortable, and respectful of the couple’s special day. The goal? Strike the perfect balance and enjoy the event without worrying about your outfit.