This past friday my roommate’s friend from home was visiting. My roommate, her friend and I all went to high school together, so it was a nice treat to see old friends and have a little reunion. We all agreed that we should go to the Top of the Hub and sip fancy drinks and see the city at a whole new angle. The view was phenomenal, the jazz band was fantastic and the drinks were incredibly overpriced. One cocktail, the “Luxury Side Car”, was $99 (I’ll stick to my Franzia thank you very much). But overall we enjoyed our Top of the Hub experience.
Our friend wanted to experience more of Boston’s night life and go bar hopping to dance and hopefully get some affordable drinks. I became really crabby and irritated because it was already midnight and I was tired and wanted to eat popcorn and watch Netflix. But my girlfriend told me that the bars were right across the street and it was my friends only night here and to enjoy our limited time together. I begrudgingly agreed to go but stayed in a bad mood. Soon, though, my bad mood melted away as I got lost in the fun music and company of friends. We ended up having a great night filled with dancing and laughter and joy and merriment. It was a night full of memories and great stories to tell.
I realized from that night that sometimes it’s so easy to get caught up in laziness. It’s one thing to not be a a night/extroverted person who needs to go home; but it’s another thing when a friend is visiting for her first and last time, wants to see you and Boston, the night is still young for you, and you just don’t feel like being on your feet or walking more. For me, wanting to go home and eat popcorn and watch Netflix with my girlfriend was just laziness. Instead, I snapped out of it and put in the effort and ended up having an incredible night! I read a relationship advice post once that talked about important things to remember in a relationship- it was collection of little blurbs of advice from people in long, healthy relationships. One was from a girl who said something along the lines of “Those nights when you’re invited to go out/have a party to go to and just want to stay in and watch Netflix, choose to go out. Usually the nights when you just don’t feel like going out/being with friends and do anyway turn out to be some of your best times and memories. Netflix will always be there but memories have to be pursued and created.”
For me, that advice rings true for a lot of things. It’s so easy to be lazy and choose to do nothing, but put in just a little bit of effort and amazing things happen. Put in a little more effort and even more amazing things happen, give 100% and nothing is impossible! Where there is a will, there is certainly a way. If you’re lazy like me, let’s challenge ourselves together: Change our attitude from “not willing” to “willing” and let’s watch and see how things change for the better!